You Think A Loved One Has Kleptomania? Read On
Remember the case of a famous Hollywood celebrity who shoplifted from Saks Fifth Avenue and rumors began flying around that she has kleptomania? Technically speaking, it is a disorder characterized by stealing for its own sake. The objects stolen are often affordable to the kleptomaniac, but the act is done for the excitement of stealing and not being caught red-handed.
For most of us, kleptomania is a fascinating but remote disorder, like what happened to the movie star. This changes when you have to live with or know somebody who has it. Then it hits really close to home. How then do you help your family or your friend?
First, you do not really have to be afraid of your leather wallets getting lost. Usually, insignificant things - pens, airline and hotel packets, kids’ toys, and even paper clips, among others - to which a kleptomaniac gets inexplicably attached to are the targets of stealing. Avoid pointing an accusing finger as soon as you lose an object.
Second, avoid getting angry or vengeful at the person. Always characterized that the act of stealing was not done in anger or in vengeance either. You still need to provide understanding and support, often regardless of the pain and embarrassment caused by kleptomania.
Third, help your relative or your friend get out of a really tight fix. Your men’s wallets will suffer a little in the process - bails, fines, and store payments can be heavier than expected - but helping is not a crime. Just do not be accessories to the crime! Otherwise, your passport wallet will have to be used abroad, too.
Fourth, refer him/her (most recorded kleptomaniacs are females) to a competent and licensed psychotherapist. You can even accompany him/her on the first few visits (wait outside, though) just to give moral support. The psychotherapist will advise your relative or friend regarding behavioral and medical therapy.
Fifth, encourage him/her to join a peer-support group. There are “shoplifters anonymous” groups online that can help your relative or friend. It has been shown that talking to others with similar compulsions is great therapy for the person. Think of it as being in a non-judgmental environment that allows free thinking and speech without recriminations.
Ultimately, you have to help your family or your friend gain coping skills. You can educate yourself on the subject, help him/her find healthy outlets to channel stealing urges, assist in making him relax, and support him/her in staying focused. The rest is up to him/her.